Sunday, December 24, 2006

Merry Christmas and Happy Birthday


me&dad
Originally uploaded by katebunge.
Dear Dad,

It's been a long time since we spent time together, just chatting or sharing
artwork creations, or watching bugs bunny on Saturday monrings. I spent
only 16 years of my life with you, and July 3, 1987 seems like an eternity
ago. It took a decade for me to realize that being the only family member
to share the last days of your life, and subsequently find you after your
passing, was not a curse, but a gift. Back in those days, we had no idea
that the night we spent on the cruise around the Hudson River, under the
awesome display of Lady Liberty, that it would have been our last special
moment together. You were so full of life, although inside your heart was
slowly dying. A mere 36 hours later, and I would be sobbing over my loss.
And at the time, it was MY loss, not yours. Too young to realize what a loss
you suffered, it wasn't until my mid-twenties, while aspiring toward my
own careers goals in New York that I realized that it was not I who had
suffered such a loss, it was you. You were only 49 years old. With so
much life ahead of you. You missed out on the birth of all of your
grandchildren, the weddings of all your children, and golden years with
your wife. So on this Christmas day, what would have been your 69th
birthday, I wish you Happy Birthday to let you know that you are still
sorely missed and the wound in my heart for you, I fear, will never truly
heal. Love, Kate

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I wanted to remember my dad this Christmas Day and encourage
anyone else to remember a loved one this holiday. Happy Holidays!

7 Comments:

Blogger PunditMom said...

What a sweet remembrance. I hope you have a happy holiday!

8:11 PM

 
Blogger Laura said...

simply beautiful. thanks for sharing with all of us.

7:43 AM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm in tears. Thanks for sharing.

9:57 AM

 
Anonymous mayberry said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, and as you point out--for his too. What a special way to honor him.

4:00 PM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh, Kate, that was beatufful.

9:10 AM

 
Anonymous cattyjen@aol.com said...

I just stumbled across your blog. I was reading Motherhood Uncensored and then came across the blog exchange.

It is so hard to lose a parent. I lost my Dad at 54 from a sudden heart attack when I was 28. He certainly did miss out on so much. I lost my mother when I was 21 from cancer. I really feel it during the holidays and for every special moment I share with my daughter. The only solace I have is that my daughter and future children won't know what they are missing despite the fact that I do.

Needless to say after much of my own blah blah, this post is an excellent tribute about your Dad. He must have been a terrific Dad. What a nice way to honor him and wish him a happy birthday as well in remembrance.

12:20 AM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thank you for sharing your beautiful and heartfelt thoughts.....having recently lost my father it really hit home to me...i will always miss him too...

6:02 PM

 

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